There are numerous concerns about intercaste marriage which lurk in various people’s head individually and fail to follow up like a will-0-wisp in a marsh. Here are some of my views posted here and there to such querries.
1. Folks, what you feel, about such inter-religion (inter-caste) marriages…. specially…. buddhist(dalits) marrying hindu ppl? is it sustainable? and what r pitfalls of it? are such marriages the new ways of exploitations of our community ppl( especially girls)?
It is not exploitation exactly. But, in my personal view, the risk involved in potential misunderstanding is higher (in caste-hindu and dalit-Buddhist couples), considering the mutually antagonistic views we have in most of the issues starting from religion to reservation.
See, I don’t squarely blame hindus. It is very difficult to capture the “feeling of the discriminated” and “its socio-economic as well as psychological consequences” unless you are treated such. Hence this gap is very difficult to bridge and sometimes becomes the bone of contention in a couple. Well, it is true for all not only hindus. But with hindus, its bit more complicated. Since, when they acknowledge this, they have to compromise on their caste-interest, the supposedly superiority of Indian culture, the greatness of their Epic and sacred book, in short everything they have learned as revered and infallible. Even though they realise the truth, they try to look at the brighter side (which is why we see eulogising everything indian and sanskit by Indian scholars) and keep at bay the guilt-conscience (probably).
This is one of the plethora of points to ponder. Btw, marriage overall is a complex issue. It should rather remain personal but a fully informed decision.
2. what do u think on intercast marrige espacially bramahn gal & dalit guy as its becoming fashin now.
Dalit-brahmin inter-caste marriage is not a step towards casteless society, but creation of a content, socially-indifferent group alienated from Dalits.But we cannot curb some one’s freedom to choose a life-partner.
Hence we need to address the root causes of the issue, which are 1. our inability to send Dalit girls to institutes of higher learning as much as Dalit boys 2. Our acceptance of caste-hindu look(to be specific fair skin, sharp features etc) wrongly and unknowingly as standard of beauty 3. our tendency to forget the past like a nightmare etc.
We must admit that the way we deride “hiding caste” as slave attitude, the same way we must held “lookism” in contempt. We must remember that unless we admit “Dalit appearance”, “Dalit gestures” and above all love and respect “Dalit womanhood”, the celebration of Dalit identity will be incomplete and vulnerable.